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Last week I got an email from Lara Casey asking if I had any recent, practical life examples of how I was “choosing imperfection”. Well, this wasn’t a weird question for me because I know Lara and I know what she means and how she thinks. I’m not putting myself in the same category as Lara Casey…she’s amazing!! … But I do think that we’re similar in the way that our brains work thinking about ideas and business. There are always new ideas and the motivation to GET IT ALL DONE!! …. And yet there is also a struggle to choose life over work.

Having the “DREAMER” and the “DOER” personality can be amazing but it can also be detrimental to your day-to-day life. Michael and I had a little “heart to heart” the other week about this. Ok, lets be a little more honest…. we had a massive fight about all of this and we came up with a solution…. I’m not allowed to initiate any NEW ideas until I’m able to do so without adding STRESS to our lives. We also discussed that my inability to shut work off some days is literally me choosing my BUSINESS over my HUSBAND… and that’s not ok. If you want to make this issue a little broader, it’s about me choosing PERFECTION over having BALANCE in my life. The hard part is that 80% of my ideas are very successful and so sometimes it seems silly not to go for it… but I’m realizing that success doesn’t matter if you’re not spending enough time with your husband because then your MARRIAGE isn’t where God wants it to be…. and then we can’t set an example for other married couples… which means we can’t live out our mission statement.

So, after our little “chat” (that included lots of tears and honesty), we made a change… and when I say “we”…. I mean “I” made a change. Michael is GREAT at balance…. I’m the one that needed a reality check. So, I decided to choose imperfection that week. This meant that I stopped working even though the work wasn’t done. It meant that we said yes to dinner with Michael’s family and it meant that we stopped working at 5pm and headed to the outlet mall before the snow storm hit!!

You know what is amazing? I got a lot accomplished that week. I work better under pressure and I prioritize better when I know that there is a cut-off point! So, it turns out that “Choosing Imperfection” is better than being a work-a-holic in more ways than one…… and I HIGHLY recommend it! Happy Tuesday friends!!! Choosing Imperfections and gaining your life! by Katelyn James Photography

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Thanks for reading!

— Katelyn

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