COVID-19 has certainly changed the dynamic for SO many families. A lot of you have reached out and asked questions on how to manage conflict that has come up while working from home & after being around each other 24/7! 

Joining me for this episode is my husband, Michael, my sister, Emy & her husband, Joe! For years now, we have all been going through transformational life coaching which has helped us see conversations differently!! Joe is also a coach for many other couples to help them show up in life the way they were intended to no matter what life throws their way.

The time you are spending with family & friends that you are quarantining with is probably the most amount of time you have spent with them.. so how do you thrive in those relationships?

Thriving In Relationships

Someone asked, “How do I get my husband to respect my work? His job is so chill and mine is not right now!” Our life coach walks us through conflict like this is by saying, “is that what we’re assuming about them or have they stated that?” Because it might be that he sees how stressed you are, and is trying to keep it fun! So first, make sure you’re not assuming the worst about them and seeing through that lens.

Our love languages are all different from each others and as we spend more time together working from home, we’re seeing those come to a head even more often! Within our own business, we spend so much time and effort on it and that can feel neglectful to our spouses.

There might have always been tension or conflict in your relationship, but it could be overlooked by the busyness of life. And now it’s coming out because you’re spending all of this time together!

We each have different triggers that can go off during conversations which intensify the debate, but take these as a learning experience to figure out how to communicate better together!

Where there is resistance, there is substance. Something that needs to be dug into more!

So to recap question 1 :

• Fight fair
• Clear communication
• Asking questions instead of assuming

How do you avoid bickering and fighting over the same thing constantly?

The root of the argument, sometimes isn’t the small thing you’re getting annoyed about. It can be all of the other assumptions or things that have built up throughout the day! We need to remember the reasons we fell in love in the first place. You are not called to change your spouse to be wired how you are!

‘You can’t change what you can’t name.’ Our life coach uses that phrase with us often! If you can’t state what the problem is, you can’t change it.

Having hard conversations is just that : HARD! But to get past that, it’s helpful to have a third party to walk you through it. If you want to reach out to Joe- you can do so HERE!